Outgrowing Relationships

We outgrow things sometimes. We outgrow people. We outgrow relationship dynamics. We outgrow patterns or habits of thinking, feeling, or reacting. We can outgrow dreams and ideas about how we would like things to be. It’s not always easy to release those people, things, ideas, dreams, patterns and truly move or shift out of the […]

Pathological Caregiving

When a person grows up in a chaotic home- a home with addiction, abuse, mental illness, or compulsive behaviors of any kind, children try to adapt to their environment in order to get their basic needs met. They become caregivers of the people who are supposed to be caring for them…. and later in life, […]

Denial and Minimization

I have many many clients who come in with denial and/or minimization of what has happened to them in their lives. This is a survival mechanism or coping strategy that develops in childhood in order to keep us safe. We can begin to look at and heal out of the trauma that required these coping […]

Friendship and Befriending the Self

  “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”- Brené Brown We see, hear, and value others only as well as we see, hear, and value ourselves. Making […]

Digestive Issues and Low Back Pain

Case of the Day, Aug 16 2017: A new client came in today complaining of acute low back pain which had started suddenly several days before. He said the pain came on when he stood up out of a chair, and he described a sharp spasming sensation that quickly forced him to lie down. Prior […]